We can all suffer from irritation and anger from time to time, and we need to ensure that we are always doing the best we can to manage it. It is quite normal from time to time to feel exasperated, annoyed, or just a little grumpy. However, the important aspect here is to ensure that we can recognise it and immediately set steps in place to correct or overcome it. One way to look at this is imagine you are around someone who is having an anger attack. How pleasant or conducive to productivity is that? I think we all know the answer to that one.
Equally, I realise there can be very serious cases of anger, where lives and families are quite literally taken over. In cases like these, professional help may be required. However, for more mild forms of anger and irritation, I am expecting to be able to help with some basic points that have been beneficial to me and those close to me. I can summarise them into four points:
* Say I love you
* Forgive others
* Say I'm sorry
* Say thank you.
At first glance, this may all seem either too simple or even funny. However. These simple suggestions or actions are often all it takes. I can demonstrate the above with some examples. When you are angry with someone, in a personal or professional situation, you can remind yourself that you love the person. Now, I am not meaning this in the sense like a marriage partner. However, even the most unpleasant people have little effect on me as I am able to project a sense of love to them. I may strongly disagree with their views, attitudes and other aspects, but I am saying I prefer to not actively hate the person. I think you can understand my point, when explained this way.
I would also like to mention that as people, we all make mistakes, and sometimes may only think about ourselves and therefore, not realise if we have hurt another person's feelings. I know that when I am too confident, I may sometimes miss the way another person is feeling, and on more than one occasion, have ended up offending them. I know now to be aware of this, and also ask to be forgiven. I may not even do this in person, but rather by writing a letter that I may never even send. It does however, act as a clearing mechanism and emptying of any negative feelings I may have to a person. To appreciate the benefit of this point, it is worth using this method so you can see for yourself.
I always make a point of saying I am sorry if I have wronged anyone, deliberately or otherwise. It takes courage sometimes to admit wrongful doing, but I can assure you the results are worth it in as much as the inner catharsis it creates. Naturally, being grateful and thankful for all we have is an excellent icing on the cake, in that it makes us realize that little mishaps along the way are unimportant. Practicing these techniques as part of our daily lives is essential in dealing with our inner frustrations and certainly from my point of view, has helped me surge ahead. I am positive it will work for you too.
There are secrets of thinking to substantially "program your results subprog". It is about the way that you think, and train your mind to solve problems, and face challenges. You can, when you think you can.
Your "mental thinking methods" will make all the difference. It is about your mind, and what you can achieve with it.
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